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Difference #2 – Roommates
Many high school students have their own room. You don’t have to share space with somebody else, you don’t have to worry about sharing clothes with anyone else, and you don’t have to worry about hiding your stuff so that nobody ruins it or steals it. If you do share a room with somebody it is usually a sibling and not a total stranger or you are coming from boarding school and lucky for you, this new transition won’t be such a shocker.
Of course everyone hears the roommate horror stories – you’re complete opposites, your roommate loves to be naked, they’re a complete mess, they are up every night until 4am, they come home drunk every night, they don’t shower (yes this happens), they steal your stuff…. and the list goes on… so with this concern high school students always like to ask if there are single rooms for freshman. WHY??? Why in the world would you want to come to college, knowing nobody and sit in a room by yourself? Trust me – you don’t want a single your freshman year. The first few weeks can be lonely at college and a roommate is an easy (and forced upon) friend to keep you company and help you adjust to college because guess what, they’re adjusting too. Right away you have somebody to hang out with, eat meals with, go to the gym with, and hang out and watch TV with.
Of course this will all be an adjust, different from sharing a room with your stuffed animal. Here are some things to keep in mind and a few pieces of advice for your new roommate experience:
1. Contact your roommate prior to move-in. Once you get your roommates information reach out to him/her through facebook or send an e-mail. Introduce yourself, you don’t need to share your secrets or becomes BFF’s right away, this isn’t online dating, just an introduction. Talk about what you will be bringing (TV, futon, couch, microwave, etc.)
2. Be nice and talk. This may seem obvious but this is probably a new experience for both of you and it is much easier to keep your mouth shut then it is to start a conversation (a real one, not just texting) and talk to each other about the roommate experience.
3. Don’t bring valuable items. People steal. It happens more times than you think. Don’t bring anything to college that is valuable and if you do, don’t flash is around for the world to see. “Oh cool, you have a designer necklace (you must be rich) that you let hang from your desk lamp, well….when there are 10 people in your room i’ll just snag that cause you’ll have no idea it was me” Hide your shit! Trust me, things will go missing.
4. Things that you think may bother you, actually don’t. Keep an open mind when you move in to your dorm and meet your roommate. You might think a messy roommate would drive you crazy but when you actually move in they may not bother you. You might think, based on their facebook pictures, that you are going to hate them but when you meet them they may open you mind to a new way of thinking or new activities that you never knew about.
5. You’re not livin’ in the penthouse at the Ritz-Carlton, you’re livin’ in a college dorm. Compromise! Too often people think they deserve the best living environment. If their roommate does something they don’t like, automatically it becomes an issue and neeeeeds to be fixed. No! Having to adjust to a weird environment and learning how to live with people’s differences is part of college. It’s not going to be perfect. You will get aggravated, you will blow up and yell at each other, it may get physical, you may even throw something across the room, you will call you parents crying… it happens to everyone, at every college. Get ready!
Oh boy, love the roommate topic. I will definitely be revisiting it in the future… so much to talk about!
Do you know that college is different than high school? No kidding, right? In fact, it is very different. Over the next few weeks I will be entertaining you with posts about those differences. Obviously I’m a bit bias but college is seriously better than high school. Get excited!!! and then come back and visit for your inside (ice cream) scoop (i love ice cream) to learn whatcha gettin’ yourself into.
~it’s a good day~
Beautiful day on campus!
I was walking around campus today looking at all the new freshman at orientation and it brought a lot to mind. Everyone is making friends now. You will meet people when you first arrive at college who you will makes friends with right away. This may be strange to think about but for the most part, a lot of the people you makes friends with in the beginning of your freshman year don’t typically stay your friends throughout the year. You’ll meet other people, switch your group of friends and eventually find a group of friends that you like hanging out with the most. It’s a normal thing that happens and that’s fine but here’s the thing… if you walk on campus and you see someone you met at one point (possibly from orientation) or even hung out with at one point but you currently don’t hang out with please still say “hello!” When has anyone smiled and said hello to you and you thought ‘omg that’s so weird, they’re so mean’ ? I’m going to go out on a limb here and say…never. Don’t burn bridges, if you recognize someone and they clearly knew you at some point at least smile. Smiling brings happiness to people and happy people are just better, duh! And think about it… it’s more awkward to see someone you kind of knew and weirdly avoid them than it is to just walk by and say ‘hi.’ On the other hand, if you don’t hang out with the person anymore because they slept with your boyfriend and stole your bottle of pinot grigio then by all means slap-a-bitch….kidding!!
Tear, tear – senior year is coming to an end and so are your lifelong friendships with your high school friends.
Thinking back to the ‘goodbye’s’ I had with my friends from home makes me giggle. I remember thinking it was the end of the world. My high school life was officially over. I would never see my friends again. I would never have friends like the one’s I had. Wow, I was so wrong! The friendships that you have in high school are genuine. You have history with all of them and that never goes away. When I was in college I could go months without talking to certain friends, I obviously kept in touch with my closest girlfriends. I remember going home on long weekends or for holidays and feeling a little nervous to see my old friends. I didn’t know what it would be like. Sure enough, we picked up exactly from where we left off. We had exciting stories to share about college and reminicing about high school always made for a great night. Your friends from home are like family. You never really lose that bond. Even now, I have friends from high school that I haven’t talked to in years yet I know that if I went back home and met up with them we would pick up from exactly where we left off.
An even crazier thought…. some of the best friends I have (couldn’t imagine living without them) I made while I was in college.
College orientation…. it’s like summer camp on steroids. A lot of awkward high school seniors and a handful of overly excited, enthusiastic, screaming college students who are trying to make you feel right at home. Orientation is a great way to meet your incoming freshman class and learn the in’s and outs of your college. You may be visiting your campus for one full day, maybe overnight or possibly staying a full weekend. Either way, orientation can be a great time or scare the heck out of your. Try and make the most of it… see my Orientation Tips below;
1. Don’t judge your college experience by your orientation weekend. There are always students who cry their eyes out after the first day of orientation because they say they’ve made a mistake and hate the college. It’s ONE day! If i judged my college by my orientation weekend I would have been out after the first girl screamed “YAHHHHH! WELCOME! WE ARE SO HAPPY YOU ARE HERE” and then proceeded to blow a fog horn in my face. Even if you don’t enjoy your orientation, you need to give your school a longer chance before you make any drastic changes.
2. Don’t do drugs, don’t drink! It’s not worth it. How embarrassing would it be if you got caught drinking and then got kicked out of school before you even started classes?? True story – this has happened maaaaaaaaaany times.
3. Introduce yourself to a professor or dean. There are usually professors and/or deans at orientation welcoming the class or talking about the departments that they are a part of. When you get the chance (and yes it will be uncomfortable and a little scary) go up to one of them and introduce yourself and tell them how excited you are to start school. Fast forward to freshman year…. send that professor an e-mail and go meet with them. Talk to them about internships, classes, careers, etc. That professor will be an essential resource throughout your college experience.
4. Be nice to your orientation leaders. Make friends with them. They are upper classmen, their friends are upperclassman – enough said.