Scholarships For YOU!

scholarshipsThere is so much free money out there, Millions of dollars remain unclaimed every year because no one applies for some scholarships. Don’t give up on searching for the money. A $1,000 scholarship may not seem like a lot when you’re looking at a tuition bill of $20,000 or $30,000 but if you apply for 10 scholarships and get them, that’s $10,000! I had a friend in college who made it her part time job over her four year education to search and apply for scholarships. Every few months she had a check being sent to our school to go towards her tuition bill.  She graduated with hardly ANY loans to pay off. Take the time now to fill out that application, write that essay or sit for that interview to earn some money. Regardless of where you are looking for scholarships, everyone should be looking.

Here are 4 GREAT scholarships websites

  1. Scholarships.com is a free and very well laid out, user-friendly website. You have to create an account to get started, then you can save your favorite scholarships to view later. Scholarships are organized into different searchable categories such as Scholarships Trending Now, Scholarships By Grade Level, Scholarships By Major, Scholarships By State, Scholarships for Women, Sports Scholarships, Minority Scholarships, and Unusual Scholarships. The site also has scholarship applications tips and resources. Scholarships.com boasts over 2.7 million scholarship listings totaling $19 million in winnable funds.
  2. CollegeBoard is a website that should be a familiar website to most students who took the SATs and any AP courses. It is a private, free website that is updated regularly by staff and is highly accredited. Around 2,300 scholarships are listed with a value of closing in on $3 billion.
  3. FastWeb is a private and free site. Scholarships over 11 months old are automatically deleted from the database so that it stays current. There are videos on the site to give advice to students, sweepstakes and special promotions, and a list of common scholarship deadlines. It offers around 1.5 million scholarships totaling around $3.4 billion in funds.
  4. CollegeNet is a site that lets you search for scholarships based on their content with Keyword Search or based on your personal information and what you qualify for with Profile Search. CollegeNet also offers this great feature that allows students to open discussions in the forums. The conversation topics get voted on based on how interesting they are; the student with the most interesting conversation wins money to the tune of $300-$5000. It is private and updates monthly.

Know When To Seek Counseling

depressionMost, if not all college campuses offer counseling services to offer aid to troubled students. Don’t’ be afraid to take advantage of this resource if you need it. You may be thinking that you’re not the type to need it. College brings an entire new level of stress, peer pressure, experiences, personalities, and opportunities that you may have never been exposed to in high school. Because of that, you may find yourself in situations where you are questioning your actions and your feelings. Have you lost control of your drinking and partying? Are you always sad? Are you having trouble focusing? Are you having trouble sleeping? Be aware and conscious of your actions and your feelings. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it.

If you’re embarrassed to talk about your issue or concern with a person in the counseling service, I can assure you that you have no reason to be. People who work in the counseling office have heard everything and anything there is to hear about issues in college. They are trained professionals and they aren’t going to look at your cross-eyed because the issue that you bring to them, they’ve probably heard hundreds of times before.

ULifeline – The online resource for college mental health — GET THE FACTS HERE

‘Tis The Season

The Holiday’s are right around the corner.  Do you need a gift idea for your high school children, nieces, nephews, friends??  Make sure to grab a copy of my book “I Wish I Knew It Before Going To College”!  It’s an easy read and it’s full of great college topics.

21 Ways You Should Take Advantage Of Your 20s

Stumbled upon this list and I had to share it…. love things like this!!  (The article is by Sari Moon [don’t know her] and was retrieved from here! )

1. Don’t feel the need to respond to every text message, phone call, and email the second it reaches you. Once upon a time, it took longer than a minute to reach someone. People used stamps and envelopes; they had answering machines they didn’t check for hours, sometimes days. No one will die if you don’t immediately respond to every message you receive.

2. Ask for what’s owed to you. Half the time, you’re not getting your needs met because you’re not making them known. Your employers, romantic interests, and friends are not going to read your mind and give you what you need unless you speak up.

3. Never turn down an open bar. Seek them out and make them a priority. Indulging in open bars when you’re older isn’t appropriate because a) people will think you have an alcohol problem and b) you’re supposed to have enough money to afford your own alcohol.

4. If you’re unhappy and someone offers you a way out, take it. You don’t owe your first job years of loyalty and your first-born; you don’t have to stay in your city just because you’re on a first-name basis with the bodega guy. Do what feels right; the initial fear will give way to excitement.

5. Take advantage of all the energy you have in your 20s. In your 30s and 40s, your body starts getting upset with you, when some 20-something babe is all, “Wanna race?” That’s not a concern when you’re in your 20s — don’t ever take it for granted.

6. Let your more successful friends pick up the check this time. Before you’re 30, it’s still okay to be work as a barista and not have your career path figured out. Save your cash and take up your lawyer-friend’s offer for dinner. Use the money you saved to buy more ramen.

7. Play a sport you played in elementary school. Kickball, dodgeball. There are leagues for these games now. Get on it.

8. Learn how to cook. Here’s an idea — instead of spending all your money on ridiculously marked-up restaurant food, save your money by buying non-processed WHOLE FOODS and LEARNING HOW TO MAKE A MEAL OF REAL FOOD. A meal of real food is not a box of Annie’s Organic Mac and Cheese — that’s PROCESSED FOOD. A meal is something like sauteed brussel sprouts with onions and pinto beans garnished with salt and pepper. You’ll thank yourself for learning how to cook when your metabolism catches up to you.

9. Keep making friends. Everyone complains that it’s hard to make friends after college, but we still manage to find new people to flirt with and date, right? It’s not that hard. You know yourself better than you ever have before, and your friends can finally reflect that. Don’t cling to old friends because it’s too frightening or ‘risky’ to make new ones.

10. Let your parents buy your plane ticket home. It can be trying to be stuck in a house with your family for a few days or a week, but vacations in your 20s can be hard to come by. Let them subsidize your trips home and do you as much as you can when you get there.

11. Stay up late. In your 20s, you’re all, “Let’s go to another bar!” “Who wants to eat at a diner?” “Have you guys seen the sun rise from the High Line?” “In this moment I swear we were infinite!” When you get older, this becomes, “What are you doing? Go home. Watch Parks and Rec and go to sleep. What is wrong with you, staying up all night? Who has time for that?” If you’re in your 20s, you do. You have all the time. Do it now and take advantage of how not tired you are. You think you’re crabby now when you stay up too late? You’ll never believe how terrible you feel when you do it in your 30s.

12. Savor those 20s hangovers. They are a gift from God so that you’ll always remember what your tolerance level is. Your hangover recovery time is like flippin’ Wolverine in your 20s. You wake up, feel like death, pull on some shades, gulp down coffee or maybe a bloody Mary and whine about your headache over brunch. Oh, boo hoo. When you’re older, every hangover is Apocalypse Freaking Now. You’re not making it to brunch. You’re not making it off your floor in a weeping puddle of regret.

13. Indulge in diner/ fast food at 4 a.m. This is considered depressing behavior once you become a real adult.

14. STOP PROCRASTINATING YOUR TRIP ABROAD. YOUR CHANCES OF TAKING A LONG VACATION ABROAD DIMINISH AS YOU BECOME MORE SET IN YOUR WAYS AND AS YOU GAIN MORE RESPONSIBILITY.

15. Do ‘unacceptable’ things to your hair. Dye it. Dread it. Shave only the left side of your head and give a crap if it grows back in a flattering manner (hint: it won’t). There’s no time but now.

16. Avoid Burning Man. Save it for your weird-Dad mid-life crisis.

17. Sit down, unplug, and read non-fiction. Do this daily. None of your peers are doing it. They’re playing video games and refreshing Facebook and Gmail chatting about nothing in particular. After a month you’ll be smarter than all of them.

18. Walk into Forever 21 and grab every single crappily-made floral dress available. Is every other girl on the street wearing it? Is it literally falling apart at the seams? Is it also actually five dollars? BUY IT IMMEDIATELY. When you get older, your clothing becomes all expensive blazers and tailored khakis and other pieces that won’t break while on your body. That will be a great day — the day when your closet starts to look respectable. Though those outfits are more expensive, they also last longer and look better on you. You will be a classy human ready to take on the future. But as long as you’re still in your 20s? You know — the demographic of Forever 21? Game on, stretchy black dress with pockets that lasts about a week. Game on.

19. Take road trips. Sitting in a car for days on end isn’t something your body was designed to do forever.

20. Don’t invest in things like window curtains or throw rugs or… Windex. You’re a young, social person who doesn’t have time for things like picture-framing and broom-sweeping. No one actually expects you to maintain a bed skirt or a duvet cover in your 20s, they’re the home decor equivalent of puppies/ children.

21. Go to/host theme parties. Once people age out of their 20s, no one’s trying to wear pajamas or Saran Wrap out of the house. The only theme parties that exist after your 20s are ‘Wedding,’ ‘Baby Shower,’ and ‘Funeral.’

Pre-Finals Preparation

The semester is almost over which means that your dreaded final’s week will be here before you know it.  Yes, you can enjoy the rest of your semester by pushing everything aside until the week before finals and cramming the night away OR you can start preparing now!  If you start pre-finals preparation now you can do little by little to get organized without the stress and pressure of having to get it all done ASAP.  Here are some tips of how to get organized for pre-finals preparation:

  1. Separate your notes into folders or binders for each of your classes (especially if you’re one of those students who uses the same notebook or binder for all of your classes)
  2. Pick a class each day and create a new word document on your computer – as you flip through your notes start a list on your document with bullet points or if you’re feeling ambitious start a detailed outline of all your notes up to this point (when you go back to it the week before finals you will be REALLY happy to see everything you need to know, even if it’s just bullet points with key words to know)
  3. Figure out which classes you have final papers for and get the criteria now – starting your papers (even just an intro and then notes of what you will talk about) during Thanksgiving break will make it much easier when you come back to campus and work on your paper.  When you sit down to write a paper the hardest part is starting it but if you start it during Thanksgiving you will be ahead of the game right before finals and you’ll save yourself a lot of stress.
  4. Get Healthy! Eat right, get exercise, and sleep!  Force yourself to eat some veggies and go take a walk, take a fitness class, or spend some time at the gym – healthy body, healthy mind!

First | Semester | Almost | Over

{gabbriel m simone}

Procrastination No-No!

Procrastination in college is on an entirely new level than procrastination in high school.  You thought waiting until after dinner in high school to write a paper that was assigned 2 weeks ago and is now due tomorrow is quality procrastination?  Try – college, 2am, paper due at 8am, haven’t even looked at assignment yet.  Yes my friends… procrastination at it’s finest!  Major problemo though!  The number one thing college students wish they knew before coming to college was how to manage their time.  Proper time management helps to avoid poor quality work,  avoids stress, keeps you organized, keeps you focused, and keeps you on task – all things that lead toward a successful college experience.

There are a variety of excuses that all you procrastinators use.  i.e. ‘I have to log on to facebook to see what’s happening’ ‘I need to call my boyfriend and settle our problems right this second’ (problems already? buh-bye) ‘I have to hang out with my friends’ ‘I need to take a nap’ keep going?…. okay, ‘I can’t study right now, i’m not in the right mood’ ‘I have to take a break before I start my work’ ‘I have to party tonight otherwise i’ll be wasting my college experience’

NONSENSE my friends…. get your shit together.  Instead of using the words i have to and i need to use the words i choose to.  You don’t have to or need to do any of those things, you all choose the things you do in college.  You don’t have to call your boyfriend instead of writing a paper, you choose to call your boyfriend.  You don’t have to start drinking at 7pm, you choose to.

ADVICE – There are a ton of resources on how to avoid procrastination and work on time management.  I will give you 1 piece of advice because I know that’s all you want to hear and statistically people only remember about 3 things that you tell them so I’ll bless you with just 1 thing and then you’ll have no choice but to remember it.  Here is it –> SCHEDULE LIBRARY STUDY TIME!  Every day have an hour that you just sit in the library and do work.  Make the library your space.  I did this when I was in college and it was the best decision ever.  I would sit down in the library during my ‘time’ and force myself to do work, even if it wasn’t due until the next week or two.  This made the library my ‘work time’ and my dorm room my ‘relaxing and fun time’.  If you are constantly putting work off until later you will constantly be thinking about.  When you’re sitting in your room or on your bed (when you should be content) you will be stressed because you will always thinking about the work that needs to get done.  If you force yourself to go to the library for at least an hour every day you will stay on top of your work and be able to use your room as an outlet away from work.  If you don’t have one space to associate with work (the library) then you will associate all of college with work and stress… train your mind and body to use the library as your work space and your dorm as your home… balance work life and home life (just like adults do in the real world, right?)

Okay, that post ended up being much longer than I wanted it to be.

Procrastinate | Later {haha}

{gab}

19 Things To Stop Doing In Your 20s

I read this blog post online and loved everything about it.  I don’t know Holden Desalles, but major points to him for writing this awesome article.  I’m reposting it for all of you!  Read up, read again, repeat.

~ 19 things to stop doing in your 20s ~

By Holden  Desalles

1. Stop placing all the blame on other people for how they interact  with you. To an extent, people treat you the way you want to be  treated. A lot of social behavior is cause and effect. Take responsibility for  (accept) the fact that you are the only constant variable in your equation.

2. Stop being lazy by being constantly “busy.” It’s easy to  be busy. It justifies never having enough time to clean, cook for yourself, go  out with friends, meet new people. Realize that every time you give in to your ‘busyness,’ it’s you who’s making the decision, not the demands of your job.

3. Stop seeking out distractions. You will always be able to  find them.

4. Stop trying to get away with work that’s “good enough.”People notice when “good enough” is how you approach your job. Usually these  people will be the same who have the power to promote you, offer you a health  insurance plan, and give you more money. They will take your approach into  consideration when thinking about you for a raise.

5. Stop allowing yourself to be so comfortable all the time.  Coming up with a list of reasons to procrastinate risky, innovative decisions  offers more short-term gratification than not procrastinating. But when you stop  procrastinating to make a drastic change, your list of reasons to procrastinate  becomes a list of ideas about how to better navigate the risk you’re taking.

6. Stop identifying yourself as a cliche and start treating yourself  as an individual. Constantly checking your life against a prewritten  narrative or story of how things “should” be is a bought-into way of life. It’s  sort of like renting your identity. It isn’t you. You are more nuanced than the  narrative you try to fit yourself into, more complex than the story that “should” be happening.

7. Stop expecting people to be better than they were in high school — learn how to deal with it instead. Just because you’re out of high  school doesn’t mean you’re out of high school. There will always be people in  your life who want what you have, are threatened by who you are, and will  ridicule you for doing something that threatens how they see their position in  the world.

8. Stop being stingy. If you really care about something,  spend your money on it. There is often a notion that you are saving for  something. Either clarify what that thing is or start spending your money on  things that are important to you. Spend money on road trips. Spend money on  healthy food. Spend money on opportunities. Spend money on things you’ll  keep.

9. Stop treating errands as burdens. Instead, use them as  time to focus on doing one thing, and doing it right. Errands and chores are  essentially rote tasks that allow you time to think. They function to get you  away from your phone, the internet, and other distractions. Focus and attention  span are difficult things to maintain when you’re focused and attentive on X  amount of things at any given moment.

10. Stop blaming yourself for being human. You’re fine.  Having a little anxiety is fine. Being scared is fine. Your secrets are fine.  You’re well-meaning. You’re intelligent. You’re blowing it out of proportion.  You’re fine.

11. Stop ignoring the fact that other people have unique perspectives  and positions. Start approaching people more thoughtfully. People will  appreciate you for deliberately trying to conceive their own perspective and  position in the world. It not only creates a basis for empathy and respect, it  also primes people to be more open and generous with you.

12. Stop seeking approval so hard. Approach people with the  belief that you’re a good person. It’s normal to want the people around you to  like you. But it becomes a self-imposed burden when almost all your behavior  toward certain people is designed to constantly reassure you of their  approval.

13. Stop considering the same things you’ve always done as the only  options there are. It’s unlikely that one of the things you’ll regret  when you’re older is not having consumed enough beer in your 20s, or not having  bought enough $5 lattes, or not having gone out to brunch enough times, or not  having spent enough time on the internet. Fear of missing out is a real, toxic  thing. You’ve figured out drinking and going out. You’ve experimented enough.  You’ve gotten your fill of internet memes. Figure something else out.

14. Stop rejecting the potential to feel pain. Suffering is  a universal constant for sentient beings. It is not unnatural to suffer. Being  in a constant state of suffering is bad. But it is often hard to appreciate  happiness when there’s nothing to compare it to. Rejecting the potential to  suffer is unsustainable and unrealistic.

15. Stop approaching adverse situations with anger and  frustration. You will always deal with people who want things that seem  counter to your interests. There will always be people who threaten to prevent  you from getting what you want by trying to get what they want. This is  naturally frustrating. Realize that the person you’re dealing with is in the  same position as you — by seeking out your own interests, you threaten to thwart  theirs. It isn’t personal — you’re both just focused on getting different things  that happen to seem mutually exclusive. Approach situations like these with  reason. Be calm. Don’t start off mad, it’ll only make things more tense.

16. Stop meeting anger with anger. People will make you mad.  Your reaction to this might be to try and make them mad. This is something of a  first-order reaction. That is, it isn’t very thoughtful — it may be the first  thing you’re inclined to do. Try to suppress this reaction. Be thoughtful.  Imagine your response said aloud before you say it. If you don’t have to respond  immediately, don’t.

17. Stop agreeing to do things that you know you’ll never actually  do. It doesn’t help anyone. To a certain extent, it’s a social norm to  be granted a ‘free pass’ when you don’t do something for someone that you said  you were going to do. People notice when you don’t follow through, though,  especially if it’s above 50% of the time.

18. Stop ‘buying’ things you know you’ll throw away. Invest  in friendships that aren’t parasitic. Spend your time on things that aren’t  distractions. Put your stock in fleeting opportunity. Focus on the  important.

19. Stop being afraid.

Read more at http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/19-things-you-should-stop-doing-in-your-20s/#PTUizW2DzMaykeqx.99